Saturday, December 21, 2013
On Pain
“Pain is the doorway to the here and now. Physical or emotional pain
is the ultimate form of ground, saying, to each of us, in effect, there
is no other place than this place, no other body than this body, no
other limb or joint or pang or sharpness but this searing presence. Pain
asks us to heal by focusing on the very center of the actual torment
and the very way the pain is felt.
Pain is an introduction and then an apprenticeship to alertness and particularity. Through the radical undoing and debilitation of repeated pain we are reacquainted with the essentialities of place and time and existence itself. In deep pain we have energy only for what we can do wholeheartedly and then, only within a narrow range of motion, metaphorically or physically, from tying our shoe-lace to holding the essential core conversations that are reciprocal and reinforcing within the close-in circle of those we love. Pain teaches us a fine economy, in movement, in what we choose to do, in the heart’s affections, in what we ask of our selves and eventually in what we ask of others.
Pain’s beautiful humiliations followed fully make us naturally and sincerely humble and force us to put aside the guise of pretence. In real pain we have no other choice but to learn to ask for help on a daily basis. Pain tells us we belong and cannot live forever alone or in isolation. Pain makes us understand reciprocation. In real pain we often have nothing to give back other than our own gratitude, a smile that looks half way to a grimace or the passing friendship of the thankful moment to a helpful stranger, and pain is an introduction to real friendship, it tests those friends we think we already have but also introduces us to those who newly and surprisingly come to our aid.
Pain is the first proper step to real compassion; it can be a foundation for understanding all those who struggle with their existence. Experiencing real pain ourselves, our moral superiority comes to an end; we stop urging others to get with the program, to get their act together or to sharpen up, and start to look for the particular form of debilitation, visible or invisible that every person struggles to overcome. We suddenly find instead, our understanding and compassion engaged as to why others may find it hard to fully participate.
Strangely, the narrow focus that is the central and most difficult aspect of bodily pain, calls for the greater perspective, for a bigger, more generous sense of humor. With the grand perspective real pain is never far from real laughter – at our self or for another watching that self –laughter at the predicament or the physical absurdity that has become a daily experience. Pain makes drama of an everyday life with our body and our presence firmly caught on stage and in the spotlight: we are visible to others in a way over which we have no choice, limping here or leaning there.
Lastly, pain is appreciation; above all for the simple possibility and gift of a pain free life- all the rest is a bonus. Others do not know the gift in simply being healthy, of being unconsciously free to move or walk or run. Pain is a lonely road, no one can know the measure of our particular agonies, but through pain we have the possibility, just the possibility, of coming to know others as we have, with so much difficulty, come to know ourselves.” by David Whyte
Pain is an introduction and then an apprenticeship to alertness and particularity. Through the radical undoing and debilitation of repeated pain we are reacquainted with the essentialities of place and time and existence itself. In deep pain we have energy only for what we can do wholeheartedly and then, only within a narrow range of motion, metaphorically or physically, from tying our shoe-lace to holding the essential core conversations that are reciprocal and reinforcing within the close-in circle of those we love. Pain teaches us a fine economy, in movement, in what we choose to do, in the heart’s affections, in what we ask of our selves and eventually in what we ask of others.
Pain’s beautiful humiliations followed fully make us naturally and sincerely humble and force us to put aside the guise of pretence. In real pain we have no other choice but to learn to ask for help on a daily basis. Pain tells us we belong and cannot live forever alone or in isolation. Pain makes us understand reciprocation. In real pain we often have nothing to give back other than our own gratitude, a smile that looks half way to a grimace or the passing friendship of the thankful moment to a helpful stranger, and pain is an introduction to real friendship, it tests those friends we think we already have but also introduces us to those who newly and surprisingly come to our aid.
Pain is the first proper step to real compassion; it can be a foundation for understanding all those who struggle with their existence. Experiencing real pain ourselves, our moral superiority comes to an end; we stop urging others to get with the program, to get their act together or to sharpen up, and start to look for the particular form of debilitation, visible or invisible that every person struggles to overcome. We suddenly find instead, our understanding and compassion engaged as to why others may find it hard to fully participate.
Strangely, the narrow focus that is the central and most difficult aspect of bodily pain, calls for the greater perspective, for a bigger, more generous sense of humor. With the grand perspective real pain is never far from real laughter – at our self or for another watching that self –laughter at the predicament or the physical absurdity that has become a daily experience. Pain makes drama of an everyday life with our body and our presence firmly caught on stage and in the spotlight: we are visible to others in a way over which we have no choice, limping here or leaning there.
Lastly, pain is appreciation; above all for the simple possibility and gift of a pain free life- all the rest is a bonus. Others do not know the gift in simply being healthy, of being unconsciously free to move or walk or run. Pain is a lonely road, no one can know the measure of our particular agonies, but through pain we have the possibility, just the possibility, of coming to know others as we have, with so much difficulty, come to know ourselves.” by David Whyte
Sunday, December 15, 2013
Verse 52
~ Tao Te Ching
....Seeing into darkness is clarity.
Knowing how to yield is strength.
Use your own light
And return to the source of light.
This is called practicing eternity.
Knowing how to yield is strength.
Use your own light
And return to the source of light.
This is called practicing eternity.
Crying
Later the little boy asked his father,
"Why does mother seem to cry for no reason?" "All women cry for no reason," was all his dad could say.
The little boy grew up and became a man, still wondering why women cry. Finally he put in a call to God.
When God got on the phone, he asked, "God, why do women cry so easily?" God said, "When I made the woman she had to be special.
I made her shoulders strong enough to carry the weight of the world, yet gentle enough to give comfort.
I gave her an inner strength to endure childbirth and the rejection that many times comes from her children.
I gave her a hardness that allows her to keep going when everyone else gives up, and take care of her family through sickness and fatigue without complaining.
I gave her the sensitivity to love her children under any and all circumstances, even when her child has hurt her very badly.
I gave her strength to carry her husband through his faults and fashioned her from his rib to protect his heart.
I gave her wisdom to know that a good husband never hurts his wife, but sometimes tests her strengths and her resolve to stand beside him And finally,
I gave her a tear to shed. This is hers exclusively to use whenever it is needed." "You see my son," said God, "the beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair.
The beauty of a woman must be seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart the place where love resides."
Dating Symon Sez
1 - Laughing is essential.
2 - Perfection is impossible. Just make the most of everything that comes along our way.
3 - Better to be single than to be in a bad relationship. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it.
4 – If you have ANY doubt in your mind about a person’s character, leave him (or her) alone.
5 - Get involved with someone you are proud to be with.
6 - A real healthy relationship requires two people. One person can end it – but it takes two make it work.
7 - If it's worth it, I'll work for it; if it's not, I won't. (An "actions speak louder than words" thing)
8 - Don't say anything you'll regret because you can't take it back. (and really who would want to? I do not regret anything I have ever said or done).
9 - If you don’t love yourself.... You can’t love anyone else.(Gives looking in the mirror a whole new meaning).
10 - You can give without loving, but you can’t love without giving.
11 – Learn to forgive but know when to draw the line. (Time heals all wounds, all depends how badly you have been hurt that determines duration, or the other person is just not worth your forgiveness).
12 - Never consider going back, when its done its done, remember why you left in the first place, even if it was a mistake. (This is where the mind has to be stronger than the heart unless you really loved that person and you want to give them one more chance).
13. Say what you mean and mean what you say ... don't make false promises or give false hope.
14. Be truthful, honest and dedicated to your partner.
15. If your relationship is like "sand in your hand" it wont last, feels good when you have it there but it slowly slips away.
16. Actions always speak louder than words, things are said but its what you do that counts.
17. Be patient, as "they" say "Patience is a virtue" sometimes the good things take time to get.
18. Makes sure expectations of you and your (potential) partner are very clear to each other, one of the biggest reasons for a relationship failing is mis or non communication of what you expect from the other person. (And its OK to have expectations).
19. Communication is the key ~ make sure the other person UNDERSTANDS what you are trying to communicate.
20. If you love someone, do it unconditionally, a truly open heart would not place conditions on any relationship... hard to do but really that is true love. that is not to say that you allow a person to take advantage, you do have to draw the line .. and only you know where that is.
21. Be Humble, accept that you can be wrong and be willing to say "sorry"
22. Be accommodating ~ sometimes we have to change what we do to please others, however do not forsake your core values, if you do you will be unhappy (Part of unconditional love).
23. Keep family and friends close.
24. Variety is the spice of life ... Keep things interesting and fun no matter what you do .. and do it together if possible.
25. Finally, you must expose yourself emotionally, take risks, it's the only way to reap love's greatest rewards.
By Symon Sez
Verse # 44
Tao Te Ching
...
Money or happiness: which is more valuable?
Success of failure: which is more destructive?
If you look to others for fulfillment,
you will never truly be fulfilled.
If your happiness depends on money,
you will never be happy with yourself.
Be content with what you have;
rejoice in the way things are.
When you realize there is nothing lacking,
the whole world belongs to you.
Fame or integrity: which is more important?
Lao Tzu
Tuesday, December 3, 2013
Freedom for Ukraine ????
"There is no turning
back, we have reached the point of no return," protester Sergey Vysotsky
told CNN. "Now the whole future is in the hands of those people," the
demonstrators.
What started out late
last month as demonstrations against Yanukovich's decision not to sign a
landmark trade deal with the European Union has ballooned into
something much larger. Demonstrators say they will stop at nothing short
of new parliamentary and presidential elections.
"This is not a protest.
This is a revolution," protest leader Yuri Lutsenko, told a crowd of
thousands who packed Independence Square .
"Revolution! Revolution!" the crowd chanted.
Sunday, December 1, 2013
Change Too
It is never late to ask yourself “Am I ready to change my life, am I
ready to change myself?”. However old we are, whatever we went through,
it is always possible to reborn. If each day is a copy of the last one,
what a pity! Every breath is a chance to reborn. But to reborn into a
new life, you have to die before dying.
~ Shams Tabrizi
I recently moved back to my mother's house, to keep an eye on her she is 83 and her companion 88 he has Alzheimer and is forgetting much these days and repeats many things over, it's a challenge to live with other's at the best of times but it's harder to live with hoarders, change is hard for them.do we all get this way by the time we are in our 80's, walking around in half light not seeing or wanting to see.
I've had to let go of a lot in the past few years and even more coming back to what could be called "home"
The saying " home is where the heart" is what I'm working on up on the third floor of what was my room when we first moved here 43 years ago and I called it home.
I have my sanctuary on the third floor where I can find the peace I seek I can see the clouds and trees from my rooftop window and for now it will be what it is I want it to be. It's nice to have the time to heal the body without having the stress of providing a living for oneself
“All you can ever achieve is a sense of your soul. You gain little glimpses of its light, colors, and contours. You feel the inspiration of its possibilities and the wonder of its mysteries.”
~ John O'Donohue ~
Hope. It brings us through the darkest times. It seems to come when we
need it most; yet,
It requires other practices to maintain such as patience. Patience when things are not happening fast enough, patience to allow life to unfold without knowing how or when it will happen.
I can not change them I see that, what has to change is me.
It requires courage to stand in the unknown. It requires confidence that all be okay. It requires persistence to keep going no matter what.
Hope requires enthusiasm to fuel it. It is an experience that fuels our physical level as we are in a positive flow easily being patient, courageous, and persistence. Hope is acting in a persistent patience knowing when to step out.
~ Shams Tabrizi
I recently moved back to my mother's house, to keep an eye on her she is 83 and her companion 88 he has Alzheimer and is forgetting much these days and repeats many things over, it's a challenge to live with other's at the best of times but it's harder to live with hoarders, change is hard for them.do we all get this way by the time we are in our 80's, walking around in half light not seeing or wanting to see.
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| Olga and Ivan 2013 Birthday |
I've had to let go of a lot in the past few years and even more coming back to what could be called "home"
The saying " home is where the heart" is what I'm working on up on the third floor of what was my room when we first moved here 43 years ago and I called it home.
I have my sanctuary on the third floor where I can find the peace I seek I can see the clouds and trees from my rooftop window and for now it will be what it is I want it to be. It's nice to have the time to heal the body without having the stress of providing a living for oneself
“All you can ever achieve is a sense of your soul. You gain little glimpses of its light, colors, and contours. You feel the inspiration of its possibilities and the wonder of its mysteries.”
~ John O'Donohue ~
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| This picture is a corner of my room where I started painting a mural the story of my mother's journey I call it the tree of life |
It requires other practices to maintain such as patience. Patience when things are not happening fast enough, patience to allow life to unfold without knowing how or when it will happen.
I can not change them I see that, what has to change is me.
It requires courage to stand in the unknown. It requires confidence that all be okay. It requires persistence to keep going no matter what.
Hope requires enthusiasm to fuel it. It is an experience that fuels our physical level as we are in a positive flow easily being patient, courageous, and persistence. Hope is acting in a persistent patience knowing when to step out.
Thursday, November 28, 2013
She is ...
She is Maiden, Mother and Crone
In one…
You will recognize her because she
makes genuine eye contact with whomever she meets…...
She is not afraid to be direct and honest about how she feels
She charts her own course
And is willing to meet whatever comes
Because she has faith in her journey
She’s aware of her own strength
She delights in enabling the wellbeing and the empowerment of others
But she refuses to subject herself to energy drainers…
She sees through bullshit instantly
She knows how to protect herself
She is obedient to her own inner knowing,
She is willing to break the rules made by others
in order to be authentic to herself
Her truth comes directly through her heart
She uses her mind as the servant to manifest it
She is inwardly and outwardly aware
She responds more than she reacts
She no longer waters illusory drama
She no longer feels the need to control what is
She is deeply connected to her creative source
She is her own work of art in progress
She can create beauty from whatever is in front of her
She is in tune with her intuition and instinctual body
She lives in the present
Because she is willing to relinquish the past
And allow the future the space it needs to unfold
She understands that life is an ever changing flow from one moment to the next…
She willingly goes with it.
She feels deeply connected to the earth and stays close to nature,
She recognizes that she is not separate from it…
Being connected to nature is essential for her health and wellbeing
She has simplified her life
Released the non-essentials so that she can be spacious and free
She values her aloneness,
She waters her soul with it
But she also
values quality time with like minded souls
She doesn’t need a man to complete her
Her relationships are on an equal basis of respect and sharing
Unbridled sensual pleasure…
She has no time for gossip
She’s invested in raising the sisterhood up rather than cutting it down
She celebrates the beauty and power in other women
She celebrates the beauty and power within herself
She is just as willing to receive as she is to give
She fills her own cup for herself and overflows it for others
She understands the futility of unsolicited advice
So she shares her wisdom through living it
She envisions the healing of the world
She offers her gifts as a contribution towards it
Love is her religion
Unity is her gospel
Laughter is her grace
She loves to play through her inner child
Sing and dance through her inner maiden
She nurtures her body mind and spirit daily through her inner mother
Others seek her for her wisdom
Are irresistibly drawn to her unpredictable mystery
They feel seen and accepted in her steady gaze…
Peaceful in her sacred space
They are shocked by her irreverent humor
But secretly inspired, uplifted,
Given permission to be themselves
She is Maiden, Mother and Crone
In one
She is Goddess
Caroline de Lisser
In one…
You will recognize her because she
makes genuine eye contact with whomever she meets…...
She is not afraid to be direct and honest about how she feels
She charts her own course
And is willing to meet whatever comes
Because she has faith in her journey
She’s aware of her own strength
She delights in enabling the wellbeing and the empowerment of others
But she refuses to subject herself to energy drainers…
She sees through bullshit instantly
She knows how to protect herself
She is obedient to her own inner knowing,
She is willing to break the rules made by others
in order to be authentic to herself
Her truth comes directly through her heart
She uses her mind as the servant to manifest it
She is inwardly and outwardly aware
She responds more than she reacts
She no longer waters illusory drama
She no longer feels the need to control what is
She is deeply connected to her creative source
She is her own work of art in progress
She can create beauty from whatever is in front of her
She is in tune with her intuition and instinctual body
She lives in the present
Because she is willing to relinquish the past
And allow the future the space it needs to unfold
She understands that life is an ever changing flow from one moment to the next…
She willingly goes with it.
She feels deeply connected to the earth and stays close to nature,
She recognizes that she is not separate from it…
Being connected to nature is essential for her health and wellbeing
She has simplified her life
Released the non-essentials so that she can be spacious and free
She values her aloneness,
She waters her soul with it
But she also
values quality time with like minded souls
She doesn’t need a man to complete her
Her relationships are on an equal basis of respect and sharing
Unbridled sensual pleasure…
She has no time for gossip
She’s invested in raising the sisterhood up rather than cutting it down
She celebrates the beauty and power in other women
She celebrates the beauty and power within herself
She is just as willing to receive as she is to give
She fills her own cup for herself and overflows it for others
She understands the futility of unsolicited advice
So she shares her wisdom through living it
She envisions the healing of the world
She offers her gifts as a contribution towards it
Love is her religion
Unity is her gospel
Laughter is her grace
She loves to play through her inner child
Sing and dance through her inner maiden
She nurtures her body mind and spirit daily through her inner mother
Others seek her for her wisdom
Are irresistibly drawn to her unpredictable mystery
They feel seen and accepted in her steady gaze…
Peaceful in her sacred space
They are shocked by her irreverent humor
But secretly inspired, uplifted,
Given permission to be themselves
She is Maiden, Mother and Crone
In one
She is Goddess
Caroline de Lisser
Change
I prayed for Change, so I changed my mind.
I prayed for Guidance and learned to trust myself.
I prayed for Happiness and realized I am not my ego.
I prayed for Peace and learned to accept others unconditionally....
I prayed for Abundance and realized my doubt kept it out.
I prayed for Wealth and realized it is my health.
I prayed for a Miracle and realized I AM the Miracle.
I prayed for a Soul mate and realized I am the One.
I prayed for LOVE and realized it’s always knocking, but I have to allow it in...
~Jackson KiddardSee More
I prayed for Guidance and learned to trust myself.
I prayed for Happiness and realized I am not my ego.
I prayed for Peace and learned to accept others unconditionally....
I prayed for Abundance and realized my doubt kept it out.
I prayed for Wealth and realized it is my health.
I prayed for a Miracle and realized I AM the Miracle.
I prayed for a Soul mate and realized I am the One.
I prayed for LOVE and realized it’s always knocking, but I have to allow it in...
~Jackson KiddardSee More
Tuesday, September 10, 2013
I am a woman
I am woman, Hear Me Roar!
I felt the touch
I awoke brand new.
I've changed so much...
A different point of view.
Things seem different than before,
A new way of life
A newly opened door.
More than a mother and a wife
I am woman, hear me roar!
My destiny has been decided,
A new woman here where I once resided.
A twist of fate
It's never too late.
Even here I am finally free.
I love myself- I love being me!
I want to taste-
I want to see-
I want to touch-
I want to be-
You never know whats in store,
I am woman, hear me roar!
I know not what the future may hold,
I am not afraid for now I am bold!
I've learned to live-
I've learned to give-
My eyes are wide open
the words have been spoken.
My time of conformity is no more
I am woman, hear me roar!
I've chosen a path
One that is new.
I am strong-
I am sure-
I belong-
I need no pity- I am not poor
I am woman, hear me roar!
Written By Gypsy Syah
I felt the touch
I awoke brand new.
I've changed so much...
A different point of view.
Things seem different than before,
A new way of life
A newly opened door.
More than a mother and a wife
I am woman, hear me roar!
My destiny has been decided,
A new woman here where I once resided.
A twist of fate
It's never too late.
Even here I am finally free.
I love myself- I love being me!
I want to taste-
I want to see-
I want to touch-
I want to be-
You never know whats in store,
I am woman, hear me roar!
I know not what the future may hold,
I am not afraid for now I am bold!
I've learned to live-
I've learned to give-
My eyes are wide open
the words have been spoken.
My time of conformity is no more
I am woman, hear me roar!
I've chosen a path
One that is new.
I am strong-
I am sure-
I belong-
I need no pity- I am not poor
I am woman, hear me roar!
Written By Gypsy Syah
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